Speaker, Author, Survival Strategist, Mommy (of 5) & Who Some Would Call “Dat Chick”
In the beginning…
When I was 11 years old God put these crazy ideas into my heart that I was destined for greatness, I would be super successful, and that I would make a MAJOR impact on the world! He even went as far as speaking the name “SEPCorp International” into my spirit. The only thing that I knew at that time was that the name would be for a business that HE would eventually create in me. At that particular time I didn’t know what to do or how I was to do it. The ONLY thing that I knew in my 11 year old mind was that I was excited that God chose me. I was also all geeked up about what He was going to do through me but I didn’t fully understand the magnitude of what he had to do inside of me to make “HIS” vision come to past. (hey I was only 11 years old geesh)! I just knew that I was destined for something BIG but little did I know it would come at such a GREAT cost!
No Matter What!
Now fast forward about 19 years (November 6, 2006). I was working part time on the grave yard shift for a major convenience store chain when God spoke to me again but this time it was at a point in my life where I felt alone, rejected, and almost as if I did not want to go on with life. He said “YOU WILL Unlock Minds, Manifest Dreams, and Change Hearts through Ministry, Education, & Discipline so that Destinies are Fulfilled and MY(His call) call is Recognized”.
It was as if there was an electric shock that jolted me with excitement! I wasn’t sure exactly how I was going to do that especially when I was going through one of the roughest & toughest periods of my entire life! Honestly speaking; ‘my‘ mind, dreams, and heart was totally dysfunctional & in ministry, education, and discipline I had always been “a work in progress” I just said to myself(with a sigh)
“Lawd oh Lawd” what are You up to now! Lol Little did I know that Everything that I had been going through up to that moment was preparing me for everything that He was calling me to do! Even though my life wasn’t perfect, even though I didn’t have it all together, and even though everything was not all the way right; He was still calling me to do great things in His name; so I just relaxed and kept pushing with a promise in my heart because I had all of Heaven backing me.
I then decided that I would “Take Back MY Life & LIVE no matter what”! I didn’t care what I had and/or didn’t have. It didn’t bother me who supported me and who didn’t. I didn’t care what “they” said about me or to me. I didn’t care what happened to me because I had a made up mind and nothing was going to deter me from where I was headed. To my own surprise “I Survived It All” and I’ve been showing other people who have experienced extreme hardships economically & Socially how they can do it too!
Who’s “Dat Chick”?
Hey there! 🙂 I am Shabraska E. Ponder. I am an Author, Speaker, Survival Strategist, Mommy (of 5) and who some would call “Dat Chick”! I am also the Founder of SEPCorp International a personal development firm where I help women who have experienced extreme hardships and who are both economically & socially disadvantaged to Take Back Their Lives & LIVE by giving them tips, tools, strategies as well as teaching them how to Re-brand themselves so that they are Marketable, Functional, Productive, & Contributing members of their communities which will allow them to see their full potential, increase their confidence, gain employment, create businesses & LIVE their absolute best lives without shame or regret, NO MATTER WHAT! I’m here to reveal the Survivor in Y.O.U! Now before I move any further, let’s define the word survivor, OK? Because I’m not talking about simply waking up every day. Being a Survivor means you’re a person who went through a situation or an experience and remained alive when others have lost it all or died in the process. Sometimes it is not about surviving a physical death; but to come out alive emotionally and in your right frame of mind is surviving as well. I am a woman who has literally been through and experienced almost everything; at least it feels like it. If I had to describe myself in two words; I would say that I am a “Serial Survivor” because not only does it feel like I’ve been through almost everything; I’ve feel like I survived it all!
My Story (Forget what you heard)
After a series of very unfortunate events (including but not limited to) being abandoned by my mother, raised as an only child by grandmother, being an outside child of my father, physical & mental abuse by men, single parenting, being a convicted felon, being broke, unemployed, under-employed, multiple repossessions, homelessness, living in the projects, welfare recipient, baby daddy & ‘step’ drama, as well as being a single parent with no children (later on that)’raising a special needs son, and paying & receiving child support, believe me I can on & on however I had to learn how to pick myself up over & over & over again; and on this blog I will share with you my own personal stories of adversity and how I overcame each situation. I was born and raised in sunny Florida by my grandmother & daddy. I was taught that I could have whatever I set my mind to do no matter what! As I begin to live life as an adult I began to face various life difficulties that challenged who I thought I was. I mean I have ALWAYS believed that I was born for greatness and that I had a call on my life to do something
amazing however I began to experience things that was contrary to what I knew to be true about myself. I was being suffocated by life and literally dying! I was ashamed of my life. (if you’ve read this far then you know why). I was tired of people (who claimed to love me) talking, laughing, and making fun of my life like it was some kind of joke. Then one day I had decided (yes, it takes a decision) that I had enough of life serving me a $%*^ (insert clean word please) sandwich. I then made a decision to send it back and order what “I WANTED” which was peace & prosperity in every area of my life no matter what situation I was in. India Arie sings “I am not my hair” well I had to learn that I am not my “circumstance”, I am not my situation, and I am NOT what or who people think I am! I sat down with my pen and paper and developed a strategy to survive. 🙂 I am a Survival Strategist which means that when &#!% (insert clean word please) hits the fan I don’t just stand around twittering my thumbs; I analyze the situation, create a plan, weigh the cost, take action, and LIVE to tell the story because that’s what a “Survival Strategist” does! Now listen, I will NEVER pretend that I have all of the answers because I am certain that I don’t but what I will do is give you the answers that helped me best at the time. I am human and I definitely have my share of uh oh moments. I am committed to bringing you the very best of what I’m living & learning and to keep it real with you; 100% real, 100% honest, 100% of the time as we go along. Now by saying that, I have to say this (personality disclaimer) I am from the south so I may come off to be a little “country” and I use to live in the hood so I may come off as a little “ghetto” so please no emails about my grammar or word usage! Lol If you want to read something a little bit more “professional” check out the section below: